It’s Not You, It’s Me: 20 Tips For Breaking Up With Someone

Be Honest and Direct Clearly explain your feelings and the reasons for the breakup without being harsh.

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Choose the Right Time and Place Pick a private and quiet location where both of you can talk without distractions.

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Prepare for the Conversation Think through what you want to say in advance to avoid being caught off guard.

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Be Compassionate Show empathy and understanding; acknowledge their feelings and the impact of the breakup.

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Avoid Blame Frame the conversation around your feelings rather than blaming your partner.

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Stick to the Decision Be firm about your choice to break up, and avoid giving mixed signals.

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Give Them Space Allow your partner time to process the breakup without overwhelming them with contact.

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Use "I" Statements Focus on your feelings by using statements like "I feel" instead of "You make me feel."

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